Emotional Baggage Resolution
"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. (Matthew 11:28 NIV)
Sometimes I feel like we treat our relationships like airport baggage claim carousels. We slide ourselves into relationships l, especially romantic ones hoping someone will pick up our emotional baggage. When we see someone we like, we throw it on them, not realizing that they may be carrying their own. They drop it, and it bursts open, revealing ugly emotions. Worse, no one may claim it. Then we become like the orphaned bag on the side. Do yourself a favor. Let God claim the emotional baggage; He is the only one strong enough to carry it and unpack its contents.
The more I try to understand my motivations, the more I agree with Jeremiah 17:9 The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure; who can understand it? (NIV) We may not always understand the effects of the things that people dump into our emotional bags. We may seek relief in someone else, even unconsciously. It may feel good to leave our baggage on someone in the name of catharsis for a moment. However, no one can satisfy every need and desire perfectly. People can give us advice, but they cannot clean up our messes. Although other people may be examples, Jesus is the only standard by which we judge our faith. Yes, it is terrible when people fall, but we should allow it to make us fall with them. As Priscilla Shrier said in her Elijah study, we don't allow for their weaknesses when we put people on pedestals. It is also idolatrous as well. When we expect people to complete us, we can feel lonely and disappointed. Then we are back on the carousel.
i_fondue for you especially.
Updated May 31,2021